Monday, September 15, 2014

Does this match...?

Growing up I was forever asking Annie this question. When I was little I had very...distinct sense of fashion. We have photographic evidence.

Exhibit A

This was my favorite outfit. I think it made my parents cringe every time I pulled it out of the closet. It is still the topic of family jokes almost 25 years later. In fact, while shopping at Kid-to-Kid with my sister, my mother found a very similar outfit for a toddler and bought it as a joke for my future daughter. I have no idea if she still has it or not. I was a slightly spazzy child and my sense of style matched that. Usually my mom picked out clothes, but for whatever reason, she agreed to purchase this particular outfit. I grew up, the bright colors and peplum skirts and shirts drifted away and I was forever asking "Does this match...?" or "Does this look good...?" As an adult I've figured out how to match my own clothes, thank heavens. However, I still get anxiety when buying clothes for special occasions. I just can't make the decision myself. I drag someone along with me to ask "Does this look good...?" 

You're probably wondering why I'm even talking about this. Well, in a few months I'll be getting married and there is no more important dress in a girl's life than her wedding dress. Thankfully, that's been taken care of. But now it's what do the bridesmaids wear? Do I even want bridesmaids? What about the rest of the family? Flower girls? What about the men? Do I want them all in matching shoes? Matching ties? Holy crap! Make it stop!! I had a difficult enough time finding a dress for Lisa's wedding and it really didn't matter what I wore! Now I apparently have the final say on what a whole host of people are going to be wearing?! Wha...?? I know what I would general terms but the moment someone offers a differing opinion I'm suddenly in a spiral of fashion self-doubt.

I do know that I don't want a mishmash of people trying to match but not really pulling it off. I just want the whole thing to look nice. The clothing is causing me major anxiety, though. It's silly, isn't it? Of all the things to stress over, I'm worried about what my potential, possibly not even happening bridesmaids may or may not be wearing. 

Bless, Scott...really. 


Grandma Cebe said...

I still have that outfit. I'm waiting for that daughter of yours. Don't worry about what the bridesmaids wear. Give them some guidelines and let them choose. You will have 4 different body types and a dress that looks good on one might not look great on another. Send them some pictures and let them decide.

Grandma Cebe said...

Also, you are over thinking the men's wardrobe. First of all, other than your father and Scott, what role will the men have in the scheme of things. Pictures is probably about it. So ask them (whoever "them" is) to wear a dark suit, white shirt and a tie in either the dark green or gold family. There, wasn't that easy?

Feisty Harriet said...

I picked a color (black) and told anyone who wanted to match to wear it; told the men to wear black or dark gray suits, and gave everyone silver ties. The bridesmaids all looked gorgeous in a dress that fit their body type, and they've worn it again, and again, and they were the only ones in black because who wears black to a wedding?

It was fantastic. :)